DON’T EVER LET OTHERS DEFINE YOU.
This is one of those never, ever things. Everything about you is constructed inside out. Starting with family there are plenty of resources for your mind to use/emulate as you go about the task of defining yourself. You are the architect. Your identity, persoanlity, character, morality, spirit and conscience are singular. Third parties are observers. What they might think or believe about you from such observations are strictly theirs, not yours.
STICKS AND STONES MAY BREAK MY BONES BUT NAMES WILL NEVER HURT ME!
I first heard this bromide about 72 years ago at the time of my solo venture out into the world of bullies. i.e. my first day of school. I was just bright enough to know that I could shrug off being called “four eyes” because I wore glasses. That part of the equation I got. It was the broken bones picture that got my attention. Knuckle raps into the upper arm or losing a prized possession to older toughs who “borrowed” it eventually became the worse damage I had to endure. It was hard to adhere to the belief in “the bigger they are the harder they fall” philosophy. Or, the reassurance that bullies are no bigger/better than you because “they put their pants on one leg at a time.” (Easy for an adult to say.)
I don’t mean to put a “Farkus” from Christmas Story spin to the past that minimizes its threatening aspect. However, my encounters with bullies pale in relation to presnt day bullies; especially those on social media. I’m not sure my old brain understands the social part of on-line bullys. Secret, mean spirited cowards taking potshots at other humans seems like a media platform that has no redeeming social value. The easy answer is to stay away from silliness. In the old days the knuckle rapper had to get where you saw the whites of their eyes. Yet, I understand many young people wish to spend hours per day on a device interacting with strangers. If you do so, and someone tries to get under your skin, that is where and when the OTHERS DON”T DEFINE YOU rule comes into play. Delete all as so much water off a duck’s back. Bullies aren’t worth a warm cup of spit. You are a valued person onto yourself.