April 2020
This is the root of all good in your lives. There may come a day when you think Papa is crazy to write this sentiment. Like during the teen years when brains get overwhelmed by hormones and a pressing need for individualism. Keep your powder dry. Easier said than done but something to keep in mind. Growing up can be a bit frantic both for kids and parents. It’s nature’s way. It’s usually a good journey. At times easier for some than it is for others. Schoolmates and peers may find their passage to be bumpier. It’ll be important to understand rough times experienced by others. Be empathetic of course. All teens experience washboard roads. It’s a passage that will bind many together. However, be careful of those few who may become overwhelmed by their individual problems. You do not need to be caught in the chaos of their wake. If you see danger signs in others (Drugs, bullying, declining school performance, rage) separate and stand back. Becoming involved in the turmoil of others is usually beyond your ability to help. Tell your parents. They can decide on if or how to help.
If you find yourself in your own struggle of concern, make a bee line to your family. Parents, grand- parents, aunts/uncles. (Even siblings!) Don’t hesitate out of fear or shame. The family will always be there for you. That is your anchor. Best to stay on course via your own navigation but if a course correction is needed allow it to happen. With family support, get after the concept of good that needs to be pursued. It’s hard to go wrong if one always strives towards the good. And, you are the person who defines your good. (No need to be overly restrictive.)
There is no right way to be either a parent or a child. Perfection is not the goal. The family unit is your support system. A bit like college when you transition to adulthood. You’ll be licking your chops to raise a ruckus once in a while but the family/college will be nearby; safety/training wheels to fall back on during rough times. Count yourself lucky. Others don’t enjoy all the love and support given by family. You’ll understand that a bit better as you engage with peers who differ from your current social/economic situation. Many are not as fortunate as you. That does not make you better than anyone else. Just luckier than some. Make the most of whatever family gives you towards a start in life.