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WOMEN ON MY MIND

April 3, 2026 / PAPA / 0 Comments

No, not like you might assume. I’m thinking of progress over the term of my life. Your Great-Grandmother had to quit her teaching job when she married. The same was true for an aunt of mine who lost her clerical job at Allis-Chalmers due to married status. So, I was told. However, thinking about that as a young man the unfairness was crystal clear. Talent and contributions never made thereafter due to societal rules that are hard to undestand ever making sense. Imagine the frustration for a person with the skills who had to stay on the sidelines. I sensed it in my mother. In law school we had three females in school. Not in my class but in the entire law school. 1965-1968 Now, over 50 % of the students at the law school at the same university are women.

An event that I believe is scheduled for tomorrow*put my memory of this history in the forefont of my mind. A rocket ship will soon blast off to the moon for a trip and back. The first woman to the moon will be aboard. (Regardless of what was implied in an old TV comedy show, “The Honeymooners.”) She’s a graduate of North Carolina State. What a difference the intervening years have made. What is nice is that in so many other ways success by a female is no longer considered unusual or a “first” for so many women. It’ll take a trip to the moon to be noticed in some odd sense.

Blast-offs in the 1950’s and 60’s were nearly always prime time events. Including failures to launch and explosions. I recall Movie Tone style news reels featuring the ups and downs of America’s space program. Now, what is astounding besides a woman being aboard is that it’s been over 50 years that our country has sent humans to/near the moon. High time to get adventurous again.

*Papa forgot to press publish button with conviction…tomorow was three days ago.

(BTW: In unrelated news: The great white shark “Breton” has been spotted way down south in warmer waters. For now.)

DIFFERENT POST

April 3, 2026 / PAPA / 0 Comments

At 2:30 PM I had thought of a historical comment for today, a Friday. However, news from Iran changed my mind. A US pilot is missing in action. An intense search and rescue operation is underway. The sacrifice of all our military is impressive. The plight of this young pilot and all who are risking their lives to make a rescue helps bring war into focus. We know there is a big picture ongoing that involves thousnds of America’s best men and women. News of today’s action is not only attention grabbing but it is a reminder that so many are doing their best for our country.

Recently I’ve mentioned a guy from our high school and a fraternity brother who died in Vietnam. Each were pilots. Each were shot down. I’m thinking about them tonight and wonder what was going through their mind when crashing. Survival and rescue were not as good or available in those days/conditions. One also thinks about today’s downed hero. What were his thoughts? What is being experienced inside Iran? Evasion and survival for sure. Friends and family must be besides themselves tonight. We are safe and comfortable here at home but please remember that there are numerous stories about individuals being played out each and every day. Use today’s news to help focus on the bigger picture of support for all the troops. Patriotism is not bad.

YES, BUT

April 1, 2026 / PAPA / 0 Comments

For nearly fifty years Iran has been described as the major exporter/instigator of terrorism around the world. Stirred the pot in at least twenty countries. Even the main news media concedes that point at certain times. Politicians are quite certain about the evil of the theocracy that rules Iran. However, for decades nothing very concrete was done to stop the obvious threats to civilization. The Pooh Bahs of Iran want an atom bomb in the worst way. And, that in a nutshell is the problem. They’d use it in the worst way. Border on messianic type of thinking. USA and Isreal bad. Hard to conceive that there are Americans who might well agree despite all the history and evidence. Try not to get confused whether there is factually a good and an evil.

So, as you know, he US has stepped forward to try to halt the aggression. Now, many politicians and much of the media still say Iran very evil BUT. Do something to defang? Not so much. Especially if the voice to stop Iran is named Trump. For many I suppose it is a collision of two evils. Hard to support one evil doing a correct/needed/good action when he is so hated. Perhaps some need to view the current military action as by the USA in pursuit of a goal long held by nearly all politicians, not necessarily a conocted scheme of Trump. Is it possible that even he might be correct 1-2-3% of the time? (Papa doubts if the true haters could muster up a nod at 1/2%)

In Vietnam I saw various reports/investigations regarding combat operations on a near daily basis. Also, there was a death of a guy from our high school as well as a fraternity brother. There were guys I met/knew who were wounded and were POWs. During service itself I came across others during duty time that ended up scarred by that war. A month into the Iran war the casualties have been remarkably low. The whittling away of Iran’s power to aggress has been astounding. The military achievements seemed beyond belief. In contrast I recall one report that inicated the number of aircraft lost so far in Vietnam. The ratio, not the exact numbers, of my memory is what counts; but it was like 7000 lost and 3500 by enemy. There were a ton of accidents. Dead and wounded accounts were always disheartening. I know that the US has encurred loss in Iran. Minimal does not lessen the pain of families. But the cost to eliminate/reduce the killing machine of Iran is remarkably low to this point.

What is going on in the minds of so many Americans? An agreed evil that could slaughter many more thousands or future millions flips over to a big BUT. A vast number of politicians don’t applaud the skills of our service men and women. Express joy at our low causalty rate. Support the troops. No, rather it is point fngers about whether there was a clear plan by saying it’s a war of “choice”, a war that is so long; all of 28 days so far, gasoline now costing what it did in 2022 under Biden without a war, grousing that there s no clear off-ramp and just grumble because no matter how this turns out it will of course be wrong. Recently, I’ve been listening to old Vera Lynn music. It is remarakable how many positive/supportive tunes were turned out during the second world war. In Vietnam, “We Gotta Get Out Of This Place” is one of a few to recall. Different times. Much different support for troops/country in a war. Let’s hope that our military remains safe, that the Pooh Bahs can no longer cause havoc outside their borders, that Iran and its proxies move towards stopping the insane hate of Isreal and that real peace gets a chance in the Middle East. It’d be nice if the people of Iran could live under no Pooh Bahs or at least milder versions. But, that you and yours are safe from violence from the nut jobs is my hope.

NO KINGS

March 28, 2026 / PAPA

Papa missed another one. I did provide a chauffeur service to and fro. Not my cup of tea for several reasons. I believe I’ve mentioned before that the movement in favor of integration was a positive. The dislike of Trump is a given but not something that I see generating a positive movement. He’s bad, he keeps being bad and he will always be bad is a message that fails to stir my juices. Negative yes. Positive not at all. It would be nice if a positive alternative was being promoted. Perhaps protesting is therapeudic for some.

Which brings me to the point that I not only prefer to engage in something positive but that I am especially cautious of joining in a mass gathering without a clear understanding who is organizing and supporting same. In small ways the negative goes beyond hate for the man. Who or what would be supported if I pick up a sign? There were a few mixed messages that I saw on signs today. There is a slickness involved that I can’t escape. That cynicisim, fear and despair prevade the messages does not inspire Papa. That is why “hope” is in the title of this blog. As bad as the Presidents have been during your lifetime there continues to be plenty of sunshine ahead.

On my drive today, which included a stop at the post office, I did learn how to spell vulgar words that start with A, F and S. Mature signs all. I resisted the urge to stop and inform one guy that there is no E in dictator. Most of the folks seemed happy with waves and smiles. Yet, one elderly woman’s face showed anger as she pumped her sign in my direction when I stopped at a traffic light. Although white haired now, I had a fleeting thought whether she cut her protest teeth alongside a young woman who spit in my direction in 1972 when I walked through San Francisco airport as I came home from Vietnam. Today’s lady bore the same agitated expression of contempt that is seared in my memory. (She’s out there somewhere.)

Memories. I admit that they may overly influence another reason I was a no show against kings. For nearly 50 years Iran has been the main supporter of terrorism in the world. Killed many Ameicans. The main aggressor in the Middle East. Trying to stir up trouble across the globe. Bad guys. Probably years too late from my view that the US is now engaged with Iran. The goal is to finally stop the Pooh Bahs dream of nuclear destruction. Cut back on its missiles and put a stop to all the nonesense of creating chaos. Just go back to being run of the mill corrupt Pooh Bahs that don’t care about its citizens. Leave the rest of us alone. So far so good on the military front. Not a time for me to give even a sliver of hope to Iran by standing on a street corner against a US President. No matter the President. It’s looking like lack of support in America is the best hope for the terrorists. As was experienced in the 1970s when Free Vietnam was abandoned by the lack of support by Congress. I saw a smattering of signs today for Hamas/against Isreal/opposing military action in Iran. Not my cup of tea. Thus, don’t exactly know what No Kings means to all or possibly will be assumed by those overseas hoping to continue as Pooh Bahs. A wide range of negative messages that make for disjointed communitcation.

Time to admit that it’s not only from protesters that I learned the F word today. After a glorious Badger hockey victory that carries team to Frozen Four an excited young player blurted out said word on TV in describing teammates desire to win. All this king stuff aside, it was a great day for hockey! So, with all this said and done, Papa believes he has his priorities straight. Be a good driver and a loyal fan.

POOH BAHS DOWN

March 3, 2026 / PAPA

By now you know Papa is no fan of pooh bahs. The only light part of the term may be to have a contest to list all of history’s official titles. Scores of names exist. I like to imagine royal underlings scratching heads to come up with new titles to embellish the egos of rising leaders/conquerors. Sweating bullets is a decent visual for the poor soul who must create an ever more magnificent title for the person who can lop off one’s head if displeased. King, Queen, Prince, Duke, Earl, Emperor, Kaiser, Tsar, Shogun, Chief, Duce, Sultan, Vizier, Shah, Supreme Leader, Ayatollah and of course the ultimate top of the hill: Big Cheese.

Events in Iran/Middle East bring to mind the damage done by Pooh Bahs for centuries. The twentieth century gave history a run for the worse 100 years to be sure. National Socialism and Communism reduced the earth’s population by millions. Those isms in various forms are still trying to climb the ladder to gain Pooh Bah status. Current events however focus on another destroyer of life: Theocracy. Pooh Bah Shah was replaced by Pooh Bah Supreme Leader. Guess who was worse?

A bit of history. Iran had its Pooh Bahs to be sure. Yet, a year before your great-grandfather was born in 1908 there was a flickering of democracy. Events were by nature rather off and on what with oil, the British, the Russians, world wars and entanglements/coups. And, the power struggles between the US and Soviets impacted the post second world war years. The Shah and his cronies were corrupt and brutal at times. However, to the extent that a Pooh Bah is able, he at least was trying to install more liberal concepts; like women voting, age 18 for marriages to stop teen brides, expanded education access and a modern economic system. When popular uprisings grew in the 1970’s he left the country. The remaining secular government of sorts did not last long. Many felt that either communists or ex-military factions would vie to become the new Pooh Bahs. Instead a Theocracy gained control. True believers. Young high school age/college age protesters who helped usher out the Shah were soon disillusioned and became subject to execution. Womenalso did not fair well. Booh Bahs intent on death and destruction have ruled Iran for the last 47 years.

Along the way the two rulers in charge for 47 years have caused havoc around the world. Hundreds of Ameican servicemen died in a bombing in 1983. Thousands more have died or been wounded through the years. President after President have named Iran as a sponsor of terror. Condemnation does not easily equate to deterence. Kill Americans without consequences seems to be a recipe that the religious nuts saw as green lights for more of the same. Keep killing and never mind what the appeasers say. Seven Presidents (Two of whom received my vote) served their terms without confronting the evil. Actually eight when Trump’s first term is counted.

Yet, remarkably, the handwringing is starting over this week’s military action to dismantle a main threat to world peace. Shocking that it took 47 years. If ever there was a clear and present danger. So, the big bad Pooh Bah is gone. His leagcy is a million armed thugs to keep Iran’s citizens in check. A mere 32,000 or so were killed in January alone for the crime of protests. Maybe what is left of the million will become run of the mill Pooh Bahs; content with corruption and violence at a local level. Maybe they will swear off getting a nuke, hold back its proxies, stop stirring the pot and take a quiet role of feigned democracy at the UN. I’d dream for more but would gladly settle for an Iran that doesn’t want to kill so many Americans without hesitation.

ADULTHOOD

January 23, 2026 / PAPA

Two of you turn 18 tomorrow. Papa will spare you the cliches. A clear but cold winter night’s drive across town to St. V’s is still a vivid memory. As was being told to return 2-3 hours after the fact for our first viewing. Thank goodness for Uncle Todd but that sounds familiar so I probably re-visited that thought for a prior birthday. Bubbly was had.

Two items to remember at age 18. Register to vote. Register for the Selective Service. There was a time when the Selective Service registration was of greater import. All the men not only had to register but at some point nearly all had to deal with the military draft. It was termed the military obligation. Coming out of law school, there was a booklet with each graduate’s biography. Looking for employment etc. Nice photo. Accomplishments. Prizes. Honors. (If any beyond my nickname.) And, lastly, the not ready for employment phrase, “Military Obligation Unfullfilled.” Subject to being drafted. Or, a possible voluntary enlistment. Or, not yet successful in seeking out a reserve/national guard unit. There was no getting around the long arm of a probable military stint.

On the register to vote side there is an unspoken obligation involved. Take it seriously. Put some effort into who’s who between candidates. It’s your vote. It isn’t owned by any candidate, any political party, any organization, any interest group, or any other cultural/ethnic/national entity. It’s yours. No one else’s business what you do with your vote. Do your best to tune out all the doom and gloom. Every election you will be told it’s the absolute most important election ever/ever! The city/county/state/country has never gone to hell in a hand basket as now. Ever/ever!! Plus, too, the sky is about to fall.

Political corruption is also touted to be really bad compared to our pristine past. Yet, in 1939 “Mr. Smith Goes To Washington” seemed topical for the times. As did “All The King’s Men” in the 1940’s. It is recommended to watch these two black and white films. Yet, Papa likes his political corruption with lots of humor. For that watch “The Great McGinty”. Humor can be a trusted friend in all things; great or small. Have a Happy Birthday. Do good. Proud of you guys.

PROTESTS

January 19, 2026 / PAPA

Today is a good day to remember when I was first became aware of acts of courage in pursuit of principles. It was the Greensboro lunch counter sit-ins. At a Woolworth store. At that time we had “dime stores” and Woolworth was one of three in my city’s downtown. And, they each had a lunch counter. Our local drug stores had soda fountains/counters. It was via national television that the fact of serving “whites only” in a dime store in North Carolina was brought home to me with enough force to capture my attention. I recall thinking how brave the young students were to remain seated after being refused service. I admit wondering if I’d be brave enough to stand on principles as was being depicted down south.

The sit-ins were an example of various calls to action in the Civil Rights Era. The Civil Rights Act of 1964 followed many years of struggle. I just remember being so impressed by the dignity of the stoic students who were obviously not well received. For some reason it had more impact for me than large marches/protests. I saw a disticntion between being on the fringe in support of hundreds/thousands compared to being one of a handful of kids isolated and alone in a hostile enviroment. It had a big impression on my awareness and sense of fairness. I think Woolworth’s changed their policy soon afterwards.

MLK fashioned protests after Ghandi. Peaceful protests; words often used in today’s news but rarely duplicated by quiet dignity of purpose. I do not feel stirred by the clamor/chaos of crowds hurling insults/trash/bricks/fireworks. Perhaps the eagle eyed members of the press overlook the high volume of quiet vigils/petitions/civil discourse that floods our nation. However, somehow I suspect everyone is in cahoots to stir the pot without real purpose except to rile folks into a state that is ripe to be lured into voting for the glimmer of hope candidates/parties who promise calm. Papa finds it hard to pay attention when my 1960 memory of doing it correctly lingers in the mind.

NOTHING

January 9, 2026 / PAPA

The youngest rascal often asks: “Papa, what are you doing?/What are you thinking?/What do you plan for tomorrow?” Invariably, I respond with “Nothing.” Now we repeat each other when asked what is wanted for lunch, dinner or on TV. Nothing has become a fun word game. However, nothing can also be very serious. You three older boys should take special notice. You are new drivers and starting to experience forays into newer sections of town and county. Within the state and then interstate will naturally follow.

I begin by discussing a possible traffic stop by law enforcement. It’s a dreaded experience. Visions of parents finding out may well exceed the negative of monetary fines or points on one’s driving record. Consquences are often not fun. Unjust consequences can feel even worse. And, who is without the sin of thinking life is not fair? At times, of course it is not fair. But, remember if stopped by the law, the is the absolute worse time to let emotions rise up within yourself. It is also the ideal time to do “NOTHING”. The time to address consequences, unfairness or emotions is later. Polite needs to be your first thought when approached under any circumstance. Cooperate is a good second concept. Trust Papa, you may also be unlucky and meet one of the few law officers who may well be the worst your mind can imagine. Doesn’t matter. Swallow harder and be polite/cooperative. No sass. No whining. You and your parents can sort things out later. (Of course if one has actually commited a criminal offense there is the right to remain silent which translates to….nothing.)

Interaction with the police may not involve driving and a traffic stop. Papa had three such events while in and just after my high school years. During two I think there was a legitimate inquiry into some kind of foolishness near a park and at a ball field. The third I always suspected was a cop just out looking for something or rousting teens. I taught law courses at a local college for police science early in my career and interacted with many police officers while doing criminal cases. It’s clear that by training they will come across as in control but I’d say nearly all I’ve met were very decent men and women. That does not exclude the possibility of a bad apple. It is the bad apple that makes the “nothing” policy critical. Yet, that could also be true of a nevous Nellie or a person having a bad day or under dangerous circumstances/surroundings.

The tragic death in Minnesota this week plays the major part of having this topic in mind. Fifty-eight years ago a much more physically limber Papa graduated law school and was admitted to the bar. Trust that there will be a long passage of time before all the facts of the Minneapolis incident are known. Just as is true now there will continue to be allegations and counter allegations based on or in despite of facts. What the news media, politicians, activists or blow hards say does not matter for the purpose of this entry; except that it is a sad example of my do nothing rule. It is difficult to understand why anyone physically gets close to an active police action/arrest/potential fray/intervention in an intentional manner. For your good/survival resist the “do something” temptation on issues that are not as clear cut/rightous as vast numbers of folks on both sides claim.

SPORTS BETTING

October 24, 2025 / PAPA

Remembering 1963. That is the actual year I want to recall after Papa double checked his memory to disuade himself of 1962 as a point of reference. Time for Papa to think back because of the recent news of gambling indictments with NBA connections. Gambling and sports is not new. Baseball had its Black Sox incident in the 1920’s. (Say it ain’t so Joe.) College basketball in the early 1950’s had its share of the limelight out east. Shady dealings even touched the near perfect “Ivory pure” Packers in 1963. The star of the team, the Golden Boy, Paul Hornung admitted to betting of football games. (Never against the Packers.) His bets ranged up to $500. He was suspended for one year as was Detroit Lion Alex Karras who was not as contrite. Hornung’s biggest issue in 1964 was not getting off suspension by the NFL but back in the graces of Coach Lombardi.

In recent years Papa has marveled at the ease in which the desired barrier between sports and gambling was being erased. Squeaky clean as the NFL was trying to project itself in 1963, it was turned on its head with this century’s version which is often sponsored by betting services and programing. It didn’t take a brainiac to know that betting on outcomes of sporting events was inviting trouble. A missed free throw here and there. A fake injury at a citical junction of a match. Or, as in The Harder They Fall (1956…black and white) out right bribery. Different methods, same aimed for result equals corruption. It makes one wonder. With all the adoration and money why would any pro risk cheating? Sports is awash with dough. Much is being bet on outcomes. Why wouldn’t participants be tempted to skirt the boundaries of morality/laws? Pollyannish to assume bets are all on the up and up. Or, that a team or league is immune from corruption. The 2025 sports betting/gambling scandal is nothing new. Just a ton more money is involved.

Time for Papa to sit back and wait for other such shoes to drop. In the meantime, I’m sensing that there might be a spring or two left in my step. If there is betting on an Octogenarian Pickle Ball League, is it too late to learn the game?

“F” WORD X 9

October 20, 2025 / PAPA

Papa recently had a post op appointment downtown. The drive to and from passes the ICE facility. It’s entry gate has been closed in the past. There is always a smattering of pickets nearby during the daylight hours. My last visit was an exception because the access gate to ICE was open when I pulled up to a stop sign across the street on my way home from the medical appointment. This time I saw several vehicles inside the facility lined up to exit. A young woman then walked in front of the open gate and stopped. She looked down at her phone as she stood in the way. Some pickets moved in her direction to help block the driveway.

Papa made his right turn and drove briefly before stopping at a red light. My windows were closed and, of course Doris Day/Dennis Day type music was playing. Noise from the picketters could be heard. In my rearview mirror I could see vehicles slowly exiting through the ICE gate. A few officers walked out and formed a path. The young woman no longer fiddled with her phone but was yelling at each vehicle along with others. The red light was fairly short before I could proceed south but I was able to hear nine distinct “Fs” words as I waited. Not a big deal. Rude and crude. Not sure of the point. However, I was soon on my way out of Portland; a shell of a city compared to what I knew from 20+ years of work downtown.

On reflection, I wonder whether the years of local turmoil has lulled the city leaders and citizens into a bit of a delusional state. What I saw was mild. Costumed protesters recently adds purposeful silliness to the antics. At night however the crowds grow bigger. Noisier and allegedly more aggressive. Hard to tell at times because local news is focused on tear gas/smoke deployed but quite short on possible reasons it was used. Noise ordinances, if any, are not enforced. According to local tennants the sounds, including via amplification goes all night or at least until the early morning hours when the protesters leave. Fireworks, flashing devices and blinding lasers are used. Streets blocked at times and any ingress/egress from ICE brings out officers to clear pathways for vehicles. On and on, night after night and all is always described as peaceful protests by locals. I feel that it doesn’t seem unreasonable to limit the noise during certain hours for nearby neighbors, or for protesters to stay on the sidewalk and not impede traffic. And, since ICE has a legitimate role to play in law enforcement, perhaps spending less resources on protecting a federal facility is rational. However, I doubt if such limits would be described as reasonable by many locals. Theirs is a different world.

The use of lasers by protesters is interesting. Some have supposedly been pointed at government helicopters. That is dangerous if flashed into eyes of pilots as has been reported. At one point handbills were passed out encouraging such targeting with lasers. The possible threat was taken serious enough that the medical hospital/facility Papa drives to and from closed its Medevac heliport to be on the safe side. An extra 30-60 minutes by ambulance would be needed for outlying patients in need of emergency transport. The only followup news I’ve seen thereafter was a report that no accidents/emergencies popped up that were impacted by the no Medevac helicopter fly rule that weekend. All’s well that ends well it seems. Is Papa crazy to think that such a threat just might continue beyond one weekend? Perhaps local officials feel it was simply a weekend one off.

I planned to publish yesterday. However, I knew that the 9th Circuit Court of Appeals decision might be out soon. Today the unsurprising ruling was published. I urge you to read it; especially the portion that discusses the violence that regularly has occurred near the ICE facility. The lower windows are indeed still boarded up. (Looking alot like downtown Portland.) It’s hard to get reiable news around here. I was surprised that the facility was closed for weeks due to damage. (Papa needs to stay home Summers?) Or, that 25% of the total Federal Protective Service is at Portland working 12 hour shifts/ 7 day per week. Incident after incident that might curl the toes of some but probably feels patriotic if targeted against (ICE?)…really Trump and that washes all sins.