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SILENCE

Hate Trump. Really hate Trump. Really, really hate Trump. Papa is giggling as these comments are typed out. I understand that Trump is disliked. I understand that people did not vote for Trump. I understand that people voted for Trump. I understand that some people blame everything not to their liking on Trump. I certainly understand that people were unhappy with governing by some of the Presidents during my 16 electoral choices.

Although not in my nature I even sort of understand how some people are riled up to a 100%, all the time, unrelenting hate of Trump. What is not very rationally understood is why some people shun Papa when he does not join in a Trump hate fest. Debate and the free exchange of ideas were a bed rock of my family when growing up, as well as during my political science/history/law education and in 58 years of practicing law/judging. Too many times since Trump’s re-election when the words “hate Trump because” are spoken, Papa’s natural instinct is to suggest something less than another’s 100% on a topic. For many years if the constitution, laws or historical facts are deemed distorted, Papa thought it was good to join in and advance a debate. Discussion of issues was a positive. I only recall being encouraged to do so. It was the process that Hlped formed more liberal ideas. However, what now happens on occasion is that any contrary contribution seems very unwelcome and judged as not having zealous 100% hate for Trump. It is not enough to recognize his personality flaws, to have not voted for him or to disagree with the vast majority of presidential dcisions/policies. One needs to be a part of the chorus. No exceptions.

This blog is for my grandkids and tries to target hope. It is the opposite of hope to wallow in the negativity that an all consuming hate of Trump engenders. When others do not appreciate any contribution that is not 100% they become the censors that squash free thinking. Previosuly, I wrote that it will be interesting if the democrats adapt enough to win more elections in the future. On the national level so far most of what Papa hears is an echoed version of the few who hate Trump without exception. I don’t hear much thought from the expressors of hate as to why he got elected. Hate Trump and those close to him of course and then lament how stupid all his supporters/voters are. Don’t disturb the comfortable embrace of hate based on a personal opinion of intellectual superiority. But, may Papa suggst that there are reaons out there why Trump won beyond others are not as smart as thee.

What Papa thinks is a series of opportunities to enjoy discussing the issues of the day become islands of silence. Don’t talk politics is an old cliche of course. In my 81 years I do not remember times or issues that I didn’t feel comforatble talking about differing political/social issues with others. Now, in the name of social peace silence is suggested for Papa. How hate for one man can so twist another’s freedom of speech is fascinating. Books will be written on the subject at some point. Plenty of material.

So, do your best to cling to an open mind. Read and listen to a wide variety of sources. Find folks of all opinions and beliefs to have open discussions. Draw your own conclusions from facts. Form your own values. Express your opinions. There is no one person or group that you need to conform with. Remain positive. Negative thoughts that scare are the gun powder of politics by both political parties; especially on their fringes. It’s just possible that the sky is not falling. Papa will continue to use this forum and pray that this time of hate fades so it feels comfortable that voices can be heard/tolerated.

LBJ ECHOS

Federal disrict court judges seemingly are enjoining Trump at the drop of a hat. Anti-Trump zealots are fully engaged in forum shopping. The more lawsuits the merrier. The binge of news on the legal front jarred a faint voice loose from within me. While much of today’s news involves rage and tons of litigation erupting from sea to sea against Trump, I’m instead reminded of 1971.

Papa was walking down a corridor of Long Bien Jail (LBJ) when a plantive voice called to me. He knew me because I had represented his co-defendant in a courts martial. The two enterprising young men were in the process of cornering a segment of the heroin market on their base. Supply types. they were often driving on and off base for deliveries. An ideal time to stuff a satchel with vials of heroin. With the satchel hiddden under the front wall of the truck’s cab it was 90 % profit to be made. All that was needed was to go through the base entry gate.

I’m quite positive that Vietnam was a war zone at the time. MPs guarded the entry gates to the base. And, for whatever reason, the guards made more than a cursory check of the truck and its contents one fateful day. Busted.

So charges were duly filed, defense appointed and the process began. At the time the military had a diversion program that would become popular with criminal courts throughout Ameica second chances. No trial, no conviction and no punishment. In Vietnam a more powerful incentive existed for the defndant. If a first offense and one had a drug problem they’d be administratively discharged and on a Freedom Bird within 5 to 7 days. The ultimate second chance. No dream was bigger for any of us in country than the day we’d step aboard a Freedom Bird. Home awaited.

Papa had had a hand in setting up the administrative discharge of drug users scheme. I knew how it worked. My client naturally jumped at the chance to go home for his opportunity to seek rehabilitation. Treatment may have been far fom a priority for him but I fear actual availability in the states was also a pipe dream. Out of the service, out of mind and out of the country served both sides well. He was home for at least a month before that voice beckoned to me in LBJ.

The co-defendant had opted for civilian representation.  Yes, non-Army lawyers were around. Rumored to be funded by famous Hollywood disidents a group of attorneys were trying to up justice in the military justice system. The young co-defendant’s lawyer wanted to contest the legality of the gate search. He wanted to argue that the Army had no right to screen what material was entering a secured, fortified base in a time of war. I had made an attempt at objecting to the searh as a matter of course without success. So, it was a given that the other soldier would fail.

The war do gooder of course knew this outcome. He told me that his group knew of a possible friendly federal judge in the states that might present an opportunity of success at opening up the law of search and seizure at bases. Why a more relaxed entry at a gate was a good thing was not explained to me. However, something obvious did not seem to concern him. His goal of forum shopping meant that the soldier needed to first be convicted and hauled off to prison. (That’s one way out of the country after a long wait for trial.) Then he’d need to lose his appeals inside the military system before he’d have acrack at any federal court jurisdiction. Perhaps two or three years. It seemed that the young man spending a few years in prison was overshadowed by the activist group’s interest in a cause. Papa always tried to be more practical in helping individuals out of jams. 

I could not speak to or help the soldier at LBJ other than pass on to the Army JAG office that he wanted an interview with a different military lawyer. Which I did and his administrative processing home began thereafter. I have always had a dim view of forum shopping. It is a value taught long ago. But, to an acivist it is a goal to pursue. Thus, many courts today are being flooded by lawsuits that target Trump and his actions in office. I’d prefer a more orderly filing of localized litigation allowing issues to percolate up the chain. Now, nationwide court orders seem to invite chaos. And, my memory of LBJ.

PROM

Talk about memories. A high school prom is at the forefront of one’s school days experiences. Both good and bad. Papa has a vivid recall of praying for isolation from the prying ears of brothers or parents when I made my first prom telephone call. The upstairs extension in our house was directly connected to rejection land. Or, so I feared. Today I am still amused that I mustered enough courage to actually make the call. My fingers were crosed that the expected rejection would be gentle. Fearing laugh in my face funny was unfair to the young lady but that is in retrospect 65 years later.

Now it is your turn. The two oldest have Junior Prom tomorrow. How times have changed. The land line of my day was not only connected to possible disappointment but one had to run the risk of talking with a parent who’d answer the phone. Would I stumble over her name with the gatekeeper was not an unwarrented thought. I learned that you followed a new tradition of making up an artwork poster with which to pop the prom question. Which of course put a visual in Papa’s mind. Does the young lady also need to answer with a poster? Is a yes poster more elaborate than a no poster? Has anxiety transferred from male to female in the new process? Does she have a fear she’ll grab the wrong poster answer from her backpack?

You guys are good at art. I’d bet your posters knocked it out of the park. I guess I was better off with my fears of a phone call than to try to draw stick people on an old piece of cardboard. Have all your fun. You are embarking on a journey of fond memories. Those are the best ones. They hang around for a long time; like treasures.

MEMORIES

Papa recently returned from the old home state. I returned for my brother John’s memorial. Perhaps it was a journey that will mark one of my last visits to Badger land. Never say never but it’s getting close. Seeing family and old friends stirred up all the pleasant memories of the past. In retrospect I had very few bumps in the road of life. Nearing the end, perhaps it’s easier to bury less favorite times but even if I search I don’t recall many bad times. Losing John was tough. We were very much on the same wave length. I don’t have enough fingers than can count the times I’ve already thought of a missing detail and counseled that I will just ask John when we next talk.

What has surprised me since my return is being more attuned to memories. After a death and at a memorial it is natural that memories of the past rise to the forefront. Yet, weeks later two movies pop up on TV from the 1950’s that struck me because the actresses reminded me of a first date in high school. “The Actress” and “Brigadoon”. A month ago I would have channel surfed right past those films. Watching portions of each reminded me that I was able to exercise good judgment in my youth. Something was churning in Papa’s mind in the fifties. She was just as good looking as the actresses. It also helps explain my use of the name Fiona in my second self published novel.

Recently, I took the time to sit quietly while watching your Nana’s nemesis linger in her garden. I failed in my shoo away duties and simply enjoyed looking at a deer. As I did so often up north with my brothers. Each night our Uncle Jim drove us up and down country roads of Oneida County looking for and counting deer seen. Hundreds was not an exaggeration for our summer sessions with Uncle Jim. Fortunate does not adequately describe how lucky we brothers were to spend an entire summer near Lake Tomahawk. Courtesy of Uncle Jim, chief cook and bottle washer.

Ironic that another memory of Uncle Jim came courtesy of an old high school friend. While home for the memorial I had breakfast with that buddy. And, for the very first time I learned he went to the grade school of which Uncle Jim was principal. (Why he had the summers off to give us time in nature. ) That grade school contained a segment of handicap kids in attendance. My friend went there rather than to the school near his home. I never made the connection in all the years I’ve known him; including the need to attend McKinley. Again memories of visiting McKinley and its assortment of physical therapy equipment was revived.

A few weeks later I had finished a swim on the first warm day in months. It was warm enough to sit for a time near the pool. I like my sun even without the #2 Coppertone. It was quiet. A good opportunity to enjoy the sun. That is when I recalled what was a most contradictory moment from 1971. The military had a swimming pool on our base in Vietnam. It was available on Sunday afternoon for us. We got 1/2 day off each week. A sort of in country recreation and relaxation. Finished swimming, I was sunning. (Which as I write this reminds me of the picnicking scene discussion in a John Wayne Calvary film.) There Papa was, pursuing a tan, when I heard the distinctive sound of a Huey helicopter. It flew just overhead and landed across a nearby field. The 24th Evacuation Hospital. I might just as well been engaged in frivolous picnicking when I saw some poor GI getting off loaded on a stretcher. So, more than fifty years later I conjured up that day on a sunny day far removed from that sadness.

AS LONG AS IT TAKES

There’s a lot of hand wringing now that President Trump is trying to negotiate a peace between Russia and Ukraine. He’s being accused of taking the side of Russia. He’s allegedly changing/abandoning decades old European/American defense concepts. Lots of verbal rattling going on. It will certainly be interesting to see if the killing can be stopped. One question might be to ask what is the traditional defense concept that may be changed by these peace negotiations?

Our last president famously said we’d support Ukraine for as long as it takes. We sent that country a lot of weapons. Some not in a timely fashion and others in slow increments of usefulness. (Guns that shoot 8 miles but not 9.7 miles…or old but not new tanks/planes….or attacks that don’t cross the border and then later maybe by 10-15-30 miles across the boundry??) All for as long as it takes. Lots of young men and women have died in battle. As long as it takes; keep grinding. One million lost? Dead or dead and wounded combined? Hard number to count either way. As long as it takes.

After the White House blowup between President Trump and President Zelinsky the news media quickly shifted to shock and dismay that Ukraine was being betrayed. The world order was being torn apart. What happened to the as long as it takes policy? Not to worry. Papa saw an inerview a few days later with an Europen leader and darn if he didn’t use the as long as it takes line. It might be one thing to say as long as it takes if there is a clear objective. As in defeating an enemy or tossing invading forces back across a border. What is the objective of pledging not to use our troops but supply one side so that that side is not overly disadvantaged? An effort to balance arms between the warring parties so neither gets too much of an upper hand. The US policy was to supply the means to keep the fighting and dying at a steady pace. Or, so it seemed. As long as it takes.

It is hard to know what the US policy might have been if push had come to shove. As long as it takes sounds determined but it’s hard to take seriously when spoken by a guy who helped lead the charge to abandon Free Vietnam. Or, abandoned the people, especially the women, of Afgahanistan. Yet, a cold war mentality supplied the necessary materials to keep the meat grinder in Ukraine fed. Cannon fodder anyone? Shades of World War One. ( Watch the movie “Paths of Glory” for insight into that conflict’s state of mind. )

It was an odd mixture of standing up to the bad guy without getting a bloody nose for the USA. Unspoken but obvious is that the bad guy has nukes. It’s not just a bloody nose we face. Which makes a negotiated settlement between Russia and Ukraine viable despite being repulsive to the concept that good should triumph over evil. No doubt that Russia is the bad guy. But, so were the Communists in North Korea and North Vietnam as were the Soviets in East Germany. Unsatisfying truces/settlements/acceptance is not a new concept for America. The active war and killing did stop at least in prior conflicts no matter that a sense of justice eluded the good guys. There are nukes in the hands of bad guys that tempers/restrains actions. Only time will tell if Trump’s negotiations will work. If the killing stops and a truce is sustained it will be up to historians to debate who got the better of the other guy. Many will be happy that the killing stops. Others may argue that ongoing war is justified to obtain justice. Or, more favorable lines on a map.

Papa does wonder at times if Europe has stood on principles of justice too often in the past. 30 years war? 100 years war? They actually happened in Europe where borders often floated back and forth between nations/principalities/kingdoms/empires and invading hordes. I often think of the poor peasants who might have needed to swear alligence to 2 or 3 different despots in a lifetime. War followed by peace and then more map drawing. How many lives need be lost for the principle that Crimea is an entity of deep rooted Ukrainian or Rusian blood? (More Tatar may be more accurate.) European Poo-Bahs seemed to have an inate ability to fight at the drop of a hat. They were also quite creative in he naming of their peace treaties. Who can forget the “Treaty Of Eternal Peace?”

Fingers crossed for peace. However, it is difficult to ignore that Russia’s Putin appears locked in an European mindset of 100-200 years ago. Balance of power. Spheres of influence. Illusions of grand power. Not too sure that without US power the other European leaders are up to date either. They seemed to have been played by Putin in the last 20 years or so. Germany especially marches as if it made a grand bargain on oil and gas. It will be interesting to see if Europe can fend for themselves if the big stick of America is pulled back. Papa always jokes that he hates change. (Especially with packaging.) I admit it is hard to resist the impulse for the US to use force against a bad guy. However, the US feeding weapons to others who will then die conjures up a sense of resistance also. Time will tell if a third path that may vey well contain distasteful concessions ends the war. At least for now, the world may come face to face with change that involves the potential shift in US foreign policy. Unless “it” is defined it may be wise to change from a policy of for as long as ” it” takes.

(BTW: Papa is aware of even longer wars….600 to 700 years on Iberian Peninsula?)

2035 EXPIRATION DATE

Well, it’s come to this for Papa. Whereas, once the year 2000, the start of a new century, seemed far off, there is a new calendar year setting a goal for me. I remember that in 1988 the year 2000 seemed way too far over the horizon. However, it was a dream goal back then. Fresh off my quadruple heart by-passes I thought I could vigilantly exercise and eat a sawdust diet to live for another twelve years. That dream of self discipline faded sometime in 1989. Missing a few days, weeks, months of dedicated physical effort got me back to reality. I’d need some luck to see 2000.

Luck must have kicked into high gear at some point because a new goal recently was set for me. It arrived in the US mail. I received a letter from the state of Oregon. Due to a VA disability finding I am eligible for free state park admission. One thing stood out to me immediately. Its 2035 expiration date. That tidbit finally brought a hard truth home to me: we are no longer in the 20th century. Even though it was a goal of sorts writing the date with a 20 still feels uncomfortable. I’m a 1950’s guy. Long term didn’t reach out this far for me, much less 2035. But, that’s a new expiration date. A new goal. (Not necessarily for me but at least for a card of paper.)

Free. Free anything sure got Papa’s attention. Even admission to state parks. The question now is how many times will the pass be used? Will it be torn with jagged edges tucked inside my wallet on the table next to my death bed? Or, will it be in pristine condition in the glove compartment of my car? Before it is too late I aim to find a state park and enter it for free. As life fritters away it is essential to have motivating goals.

ROSEMARY AND THYME

At some point in time every kitchen runs out of essential ingredients. Depletion happens more quickly if one’s cooking specialties are limited. It could be claimed my menus are so limited that one particular meal is prepared and served more often than other main menu items. Pork Tenderloin is so easy to make which suits Papa’s culinary skill level. Plus, it comes in a handy four pack at Costco. Economical meat entree for sure. But, to prepare it herb crusted one does need thyme and rosemary as part of the ingredients.

The simple solution is a quick trip to the grocery store. My closest store does not have hand baskets or small carts. Because my experience tells me that I may encounter other items that are needed/desired or on sale Papa takes a cart designed to hold supplies for a six month trek on the Oregon Trail. Overkill for sure. However, I bring home the less than one ounce bottles of herbs along with twenty pounds of other stuff.

Oven is set for pre-heat and my attention turns to the searing process. All I need to do is open the bottles. I have the knife at the ready to cut the plastic wrap around the caps. I no longer use the larger mongo knife that cut my finger on more delicate packaging opening. Off goes the plastic. Unscew the cap. Wait a min ute. Another plastic shaker top needs to be removed so that I can get to another layer that covers the precious herbal contents. That layer has a tiny tab that flaps up. Teeny is actually a better description. Or, flimsey. The concept, I believe is to grip the tab and pull it off. A simple enough inovation. Except that the tab is slipperier than an eel in oil. Try as I might the old thumb and forefinger that was so important for evolution fails to grasp.

Time for the knife again. Cut, cut, cut until jagged edges of the protective layer are all that remains visible. Papa feels so good because of the knowledge that no evil doer had a chance to contaminate his supply of thyme. I can get on with cooking. As soon as the rosemary bottle is opened. Two more stabs and cuts with the knife. Perhaps it is a testament to human stupidity but Papa does try to surge forward without sharp instruments. Fool me once packagers and you’ll keep fooling me.

Brute force seldom works on packaging anymore, Knifes, box cutters, tin snips and scissors have to be nearby. Do good packagers tout hycientic issues and tamper proof concerns for the overkill by their industry. Thus, ultrasonic welding, blister packs and clamshell devices promote ever more dangerous sharp edged instruments for hand use. Try to open bacon or cream cheese without any stabbing/cutting actions. Perforated lines that never tear. Food is one thing but the worst cut suffered came from the impossible to open packaging of a toilet flapper. What is the societal benefit of stopping that item from being touched?

Again, fair warning: major in a packaging degree at college and you are out of the will.

19 YEARS

Today had to arrive. I’ve thought long and hard about pulling this trigger. It’s something I must do without any mental reservation. Evasion for sure to this point. Will I live long enough to justify taking this action? Life decisions are revolving around this question more and more. Does it really make any sense to go to a dentist for a checkup? How many more years will I be able to drive? Safely? I make the same calculation on many subjects. However, this is a big one. An expensive one.

For the first time in 19 years I’ve bought a new car. Fifth in my lifetime. I had another judge once tell me he bought four cars in an 18 month period. I averaged a new car every 13+ years. Each car served its purpose as long as gas went in the tank, a few tire changes were made and washer fluid was added on a need to use basis. Yes, each received some oil changes but that process is greatly over-rated. But a car can’t last forever. I won’t either so that is why calculations must be made. If I can’t drive this car for at least six years I will really be mad; at myself or my cardiologist. The car will only be half broken in if I die too soon.

For my last car purchase I had a car buying program find the car, send the money and all I had to do was go pick it up. ( That car still runs and is my summer transportation.) USAA stopped that program and that is another reason I dithered about going solo to but a car. I have made 3 trips to dealersips; 3 more than I wanted. I’ve been pitched at least 7 cars that don’t match my criteria. No one listens. Six cars existed but were gone poof before I could purchase. My trim and color are too popular I guess. But, today’s the day. A 4th trip to a dealership/.

I’m a bit on edge though. A new car is going to have sensors, warnings, controls and a screen that make no sense to me. I may need to live the six years to learn how to operate the vehicle. My present car needs to turn a key, push one of two pedals, shift forward or backward, flip on wipers/lights and press a button for radio/tape/cd. The rest on my time is spent concentrqating on driving. That part has not changed since driver’s education classes in high school. On that part I’ve done well….no moving violations in 65 years. It’s as if modern technology awaits to ruin my record. ( “I was looking at a screen that was placed off to the side of my vision as a distraction” rings hollow as a legal excuse.)

Of course, Papa can ignore it all as I often do with most change. Well, it’s best not to complain. As long as the car goes from point A to point B and has an audio compatible with Doris Day, Buddy Holly etc. all will be fine.

ELECTION REFLECTION

It is nearly three months since the presidential election. Just a week+ after inauguration. Papa senses a bit more calm in the nation. To be sure there is still an element of doom and gloom in the media unhappy with the election results. And, it’s all baloons and bubbles for the other side. However, even with some of the most vehement of the partisan media there is a dose of moving on. That situation may be temporary but it is a feeling I have from my own news watching.

Yet, Papa understands that his news watching may be as outdated as his bones. Somewhere I read that younger folks get a majority of their news from sources I barely know exist. Podcasts, blogs and influencers? I’m not even sure how to find them much less sort the good from the bad. Two to three million podcasts in America is one estimate I saw. I know that many of my news sources have migrated to the internet but in many respects they only represent old time media outlets. So, there may be a lot more more going on that is unknown to Papa. As Ann Margaret said in a movie line to an old time film actor favorite of mine, “Comfortable.” I have my entrenched ways.

What do I recommend? Do your own winnowing and sifting but these are the sites on my tablet’s favorites. I go to most on daily basis. A few only once or twice a week. BBC, CBC, CNN, DRUDGE, FOX, FOX BIZ, MILWAUKEE JOURNAL, NY SUN, JERUSALEM POST, REAL CLEAR POLITICS, NY POST, TORONTO STAR, AXIOS, POLITICO, SUN TIMES, YAHOO NEWS, KGW-KOIN-KATU, GLOBAL NEWS.CA

Drudge and Real Clear Politics are good starting points for entry to a variety of sources. The NY Sun is closest to classic journalism. The old time mass journalism sites now charge more than I’m willing to pay for slanted news. I do get a few free articles from them elsewhere. So, I get a tiny taste of the NY Times/Washington Post/Wall Steert Journal.

These next four years may be interesting. More governance and less jibber-jabbering would be nice. Mostly, Papa hopes that 2028 brings a chance to vote for a presidential candidate from one of the two main political parties. 16 years is a long time. Wow, will marking a ballot at age 85 be the most strenuous bodily function attainable? A goal for the future.

SPECIAL DAY

Today Papa watched television coverage of the re-opening of Notre Dame Cathedral. Hope spring back to life was a thought provoked. It marks the first time I’ve ever harbored the thought of visiting France. Well, that’s not entirely true….Normandy is an old dream. Let’s say a first such feeling towards Paris. A magnificent reconstruction. Makes the original building hundreds of years ago all the more amazing. No one recorded by whom or how that construction happened. Yet, a professor type today reported she learned much about the craftsmanship of so long ago by looking at tool cuts into uncovered stone at heights accessed by re-building scaffolds.

Remarkably this is another day on which Papa marvels at being up and at it. Quadruple heart by-pass was 36 years ago. All the stuff I’ve seen. The scary 2000 calendar change in the rear view mirror. ( It was a thing….computers might crash in confusion.) An entire new legal career. A longer retirement than ever thought possible. And, you four rascals. I once tried to track down my heart surgeon to thank him but no success. He’s living on a boat somewhere near Florida is all I learned. Let those skilled hands live in peaceful retirement.

And, of course, December 7th means so much in American history. Read history. Know the history of Pearl Harbor. A man of 104 years of age from Beaverton made the trip back to remember. Took PT so he could stand/participate. When you hear “greatest generation” there is a ton of truth to the moniker.

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