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FIFTY YEARS AND TWO WORDS

Tomorrow is National Vietnam War Veterans Day. I didn’t know there was such a day until I received an e-mail alert. Interesting to me because I recently had a strong emotional response to Vietnam. This year marks fifty years since the last US troops left South Vietnam. US direct combat involvement ended. There was an understanding at the time of the peace agreement that US power (Probably B-52s) would be used if North Vietnam re-invaded. Being communists, that of course is exactly what North Vietnam did in 1975. Without congressional fortitude the US did not react to stop the invasion. Papa senses a source of irony when one wobbler from those days now claims unity for “as long as it takes’ in support of Ukraine. Not a confidence builder in my mind.

Elsewhere I’ve written about coming home from Vietnam and passing through San Francisco airport. Not a cheerful place for a person in military uniform. Thereafter, memories of a year away just faded and melded into life. With one exception. I recall leaving a real estate transaction on a hot summer day in the 1980’s. A realtor said he hadn’t felt such heat since Vietnam. He was a client and friend from high school. I didn’t know he’d been to Vietnam. Nor, did he know my background. He said he never talked about it because of how negative people were towards Vietnam veterans. I couldn’t disagree with his experience. US public attitudes on Vietnam began to feel a bit more positive after the Gulf War and 9/11. I started to receive “thank you for your service” comments.

However, the phrase often felt a tad rote. But, one day two words jolted me to the core. I was surprised at my reaction after more than fifty years. Tears nearly welled up. I was seeing my most recent (sixth) internist since moving west. She had been a doctor with the military. I think she knew what words I had been waiting to hear since that New Year’s Day so long ago. Discovering that I was a Vietnam veteran (Agent Orange issue.) she looked me square in the eye and sincerly said, “Welcome home.”

POLITICAL PARTY HISTORY

Today marks the founding of the Republican Party. (March 20, 1854) Is it the party’s foundational principle of anti-slavery that prompts Papa’s memory today? Of course, BUT. The organizing meeting credited as the party’s start happened in the Badger State. In Ripon to be precise. I am always eager to make a connection. The Republican Party, as it still does today, irritated democrats. So much so that those in the South seceded from the nation by 1860. The horrors of the Civil War followed. A conflict of differing principles. Afterwards, the mostly Republican sponsored 13th, 14th and 15th amendments to the US Constitution were adopted.

However, before Papa was aware of history the quiet city of Ripon warmed my heart with a different anticipation. Rippin Good cookies were produced in Ripon. Much is faint to me but a windmill shaped cookie from the company sticks in my mind. It seems the cookie company has ceased production. I checked my other favorite (Johnston) and they also no longer make cookies. But, I do recall my dad driving to West Milwaukee and buying five pound bags of “broken cookies” for $1.00 at the company’s back door.

Papa spent a week in Ripon during 1960. I was selected as a delegate to Badger Boys State which was held at Ripon College. A very good time. Dormitory life. Met new friends. Talks and practical exercises in government. At age 16 it was a first taste of independence from home. Not as significant as men who gathered in Ripon for the purpose of ending slavery.. But, the impact of being near the site of the GOP’s historic founding was stirring for a young man.

POLITICAL HOPE

With what seems to be mostly depicted as a messy world in the news, it is hard to get to the core of my original intent for this blog. That intent was HOPE. It was not a matter of hope for you but because of you. I do have faith in you and your generation once much of the media/internet quiets or becomes too transparent to stomach. Papa senses that the crazies are getting past their expiration dates and that common sense is set to seep back into our culture. One reason might be viewing a supposedly “educated” leader on television demonstrating on an issue. She was so over the top that it is easy to feel more damage than good was done for whatever cause she espoused. Yikes.

However, television has also presented a few opportunities to see fresh, younger politicians who also foster hope for the future. With U Tube, news outlets and C-SPAN video archives you can watch two men who give hope for their generation when ready to take the reins of leadership. If you get a chance look up Ro Khanna of California and Mike Gallagher of Wisconsin. They are members of the US House of Representatives and each appears familiar with common sense. (Papa’s political hope.) It appears that they are two guys who could get together and hammer out solutions to problems. That may sound like a pipe dream because our political parties each have some crazies in tow but mostly due to their “never give an inch” mentality that serves re-elections well. It may be slow in coming and I may not be alive to see the day but I can see each/both of them in higher office. Keep an eye on them.

MIRACLE VIDEO

February 22nd marks a memorable moment in U S history that you can view. On February 22nd, 1980 the USA hockey team defeated the Soviet Union team in the Winter Olympics. The US team was mostly made up of amateurs; young college players ( two Badgers) and a few players who had low minor league experience. The Soviets were professional, full time players who I think had won 4 of the last 5 Olympics. They dominated the sport and were predicted to be easy winners again by all accounts. The US team was a huge underdog.

However, the US beat/upset the Soviets in Lake Placid NY. The match was televised. Of course a Badger* scored two of the US goals. With ten minutes left in the last period the young USA team led 4-3. Papa watched that game and I can attest that those were ten of the longest minutes ever, which is what the team and all fans said. The big bad Russians/Soviets were all in during those final ten minutes. It was furious. At the finish the game was described as a miracle by the announcer. (Do you believe in miracles?) Inspirational doesn’t fully justify the emotions of that day. Besides the thrill of victory in sport, remember we were still locked in a cold war with the Soviets. For me it was another nail in the coffin of Sputnik. (Sadly, what goes around comes around with today’s new Russian wanna be Poo Bah.) That game was well documented and had a TV movie made. In 2004 the movie “Miracle” was released. Watch it. It’s good and you will get a sense of the drama of that match.

Before the US existed another event happened on a historic February 22nd. George Washington, our first President, was born. More consequential of course but you can actually watch the hockey match/documentary/movies. Papa loves sports but that Olympic win was a WOW moment.

(* Later to coach Badger Women’s team to six National Championships. And, counting.)

GANG THAT COULDN’T SHOOT STRAIGHT

The citizens of the US are in the midst of great confusion over the shooting down of balloons/objects in the last ten days or so. It is a potentially very scary/serious situation that has been fumbled into chaos by leaders who miss a passing grade on simple transparency. It is a fiasco that gives Papa regret that I wasted a post on the “Keystone Kops”. To save myself I remembered another movie/term that seems to fit “Balloon Gate.”

My mind went to the memory of a silly Don Knotts westen movie. Jets criss crossing in the air and firing $400,000 missles at stuff that is floating around North America (one miss) led me to think we might be better off with high flying Sopwith Camels pilots who are armed with bows/arrows or shotguns to deflate blimps. The function could best be outsourced to hunters. My silly thoughts reminded me of the old movie cited above. However, my brilliance vanished when the reality of end of life reared its inevitable head. Is Papa lossing it?

“The Gang That Couldn’t Shoot Straight” movie not only didn’t feature Don Knotts; it wasn’t even a western. It was a gangster movie. There is a lesson here. There will be times that you are absolutely positive that certain things happened becasue you remember them happening. Memories can be tricky. I’ve talked to people about events witnessed by both parties and it turns out that our recall is not quite the same. Some parts might be remembered the same but other details differ. Once a pal and I talked about a classmate falling out of a tree. One version ended with a broken arm and the other resulted in a fractured leg. Old memories fade and I suspect get wrapped into similar events/people/circumstances. Portions of events from a long time ago may also have been more important to one person while another was struck by a different portion. If you ever in the situation where your memory/testimony will be needed I suggest writing the facts down close to the time of the event. Short term memory is usually better but it can fade or be blended with time.

Balloongate’s trigger for Papa ended up wide of the mark. But, my memory bank still retained a small dposit. There was a silly western movie with Don Knotts. (“Shakiest Gun In The West”) And, there was a western movie called “Over The Hill Gang.” There’s a ton of blending going on in Papa’s brain.

SAGE DATING ADVICE

If or when the mood strikes you to start dating, Papa was thinking of giving advice. Of course, I’d be flippant. For example: “Good Luck.” My memory is that at an early age dating can be a minefield. It started out well for me and then circumstances created bumps in the road until all smoothed out in the end. So, “Good Luck” was my first instinct. Beyond that, and with an “every man for himself” caution, here are a few items to ponder.

  1. Smile.
  2. Look for a smile in others.
  3. Be light-hearted and fun to be with.
  4. Activate your inner radar that seeks out character in others.
  5. Be courteous, respectful and honest.

Dating/Courting is undoubtedly different than from my youth. There really is not too much advice to give. It’s part of the flying solo time of life. Don’t be a John Alden, he of Duxbury fame. Speak for yourself. (On the other hand, perhaps Papa would not have hit bumps in the road if he had used ChatGPT.)

EXTRA! EXTRA! READ ALL ABOUT IT!

It was not unusual that movies set in the early twentieth century featured rag tag boys/girls hawking newspapers on street corners. Yelling the catch phrase of the above title, they held newspapers that included headlines that advanced the movie’s plot. The film’s hero might be the subject of a manhunt, an heiress may be missing or an explosion happened at a protagonist’s mansion. Putting out an extra edition of a newspaper was one way to increase readership. It was the era’s “breaking news.” Much of the energy to outsell a competitor arose from the Pulitzer vs. Hearst news wars that raged during the late ninetheeth century.

Both newspaper giants engaged in “yellow journalism.” The name was derieved from a popular comic strip character of the time. The papers raided each other’s journalists and features. Sentiational stories, true or not, ginned up readers’ interests/passions. Pleas for conflict in the Spanish/American War was greatly influenced with headlines urging that the sunken ship Maine be remembered. (Watch the movie “Citizen Kane” that has references to such newspaper competition. Sorry, black and white….but film has a big Wisconsin connection.)

As Papa has said before, it was easier to identify a newspaper’s slant in the 1950’s. We had both a morning (lean Republican) and evening (lean Democrat) newspaper. Reading each gave the reader a broader perspective. However, just like today, some readers in the 1950’s only consumed from one news source and steadfastly adhered to one slant. However, to me objective news seemed to be present in each publication. Editorials contained most of a newspaper’s “slant.”

It’s so much easier to piegon hole today’s news sources. There’s not much “slant” in today’s digital world. There often is not much objective news; cheerleading seems to be more the standard. There is growing evidence that outright political partianship has occupied many American news rooms/sources. Killing stories or moving items out of sight via analogues exists. Worse, there is evidnce that the government, not indiviuals like Hearst/Pulitzer, has become involved in manipulating//suppresing first amendment rights. There are recent disclosures of the heavy thumb of federal agencies unduly pressuring Twitter/Facebook etc. To be sure big media is still in the business of yellow journalism for profit. Just like with Hearst/Pulitzer, doing so is their freedom as long as the government is not involved as a partner. That line apparently has been crossed. Continue to think long and hard aout “news” that is presented to you for consumption. Or, hidden.

For a really deep dive about the loss of objectivity in today’s media consider taking the time to read an exhaustive report from the Columbia Journalism Review. (Jeff Gerth) After not voting twice for President Trump, Papa still has a hard time understanding the visceral hatred of the man. (Demagogue? Smarmy? Belligerent? Hard to debate; but I’d wager one could name scores of past/current politicians who could be nominated as bad or worse. Another good movie on target…”All The King’s Men.” Black and white.) Some in today’s media actually promote setting aside objectivity if a report diminishes Trump. Somebody lost their bearing. After the charade of covering up/ignoring a sentational story for two years ( “Hunter’s laptop”) it will be interesting to see how many in the media can view their past reporting with a sense of introspection. I’m not holding my breath. Most did not have the curiosity to perk up even when given a red flag warning about Russia Gate. I suspect a one time journalistic hero doesn’t expect much looking in the mirror any more than Papa. (Also see movie “All The Presidnt;s Men.”) Your brain remains the best filter for what can be “garbage” masquerading as news/fact.

DRIVER’S LICENSE

Recently Papa’s mind has been focused on his inability to continue a full day’s care for the youngest. The boy has become too heavy. My joints are too stiff. The reality of his crawling and soon thereafter of walking did me in. How can one care for someone you can’t keep up with? So, with an overburdened mind, I lost track of the opposite end of the age spectrum. I overlooked that certain twins are eligible to start the learner’s permit process. Followed by driiving the highways and by-ways of America.

You are smart enough to know that great responsibility comes with a driver’s license. It is a serious matter. I’m not sure how to impart an important piece of inforamation except that it is something I hope becomes a part of you. Many new license holders are overly nervous about getting behind the wheel of an automobile. Others are recklessly cocky about their ability. Neither is good. What I hope for you is an actual mental transformation that you feel and act in charge of the motor vehicle. Driving can bring great joy, perform useful service and do substantial damage.

I know of two young drivers who got into cars which were parked on the driveway of the family home and promptly backed into a vehicle parked behind their car. Yes, it is good to do simple checks of one’s surrpundings before getting into a car. I also know of two high school mates who had fender benders within six months of starting to drive. It is a critical time. Check internal nervousness at the driveway/curb and get into the vehicle with a sense of individual confidence.

Papa had a very near catostraphic experience during his high school years. Almost ran a woman down. The prelude was a mess up by my brothers (Of course) at university. Dad brought the 1958 Impala convertible home for some forgotten transgression of his rules. A beautiful convertible became available for my use. So, it came to pass that I drove a good friend and another guy from school across town on a sunny day. This other guy was cut from a different mold than us. He was nice but more boistrous. A football player and wrestler who was quite animated. The only thing he and I had in common was the good fortune of dating twin sisters. He commandeered the shotgun seat, sprawled out with feet on dash and quickly manipulated radio stations/volumne controls. We were soon on our way.

I drove up a side street to the four way stop on 84th street. At the intersetion I stopped. And, waited. There was no traffic coming from either my right or left. Nor, was there a car coming towards me. My car was alone at the stop sign. At that point my co-pilot decided to take matters into his hands. Actaully, into his feet. I can’t recall if that ’58 car had seats belts but he was able to extend his left leg out and onto the gas pedal while saying, “What are you waiting for? Lets see what this car’s got.” He floored the gas pedal.

That car was indeed quite peppy and it roared forward into the intersection. I’m no longer sure if my right foot was under his or if I simply pushed his foot away while starting to brake. However, it was so sudden that the engine died with the on and off gas feed. We drifted a few feet before we came to a stop; just a few feet away from a woman who was crossing the street. There had been no cars at the intersection but I had been waiting for a lady with a bag of groceries to cross in front of me. The poor woman was startled. It didn’t take a genius to know what thought was forming in her mind from the look on her face. It was directed at me. Mister lead foot realized what he had done and was calm and quiet fir the rest of our trip.

I now have years of driving experience as well as decades in courtrooms and it is clear that I’d have had a very diffiuclt time reducing my responsibilty back then. Papa dodged a bullet. Lesson of the story is that when you get behind the wheel of an automobile expect the unexpected.

CLASSIFIED DOCUMENTS

Papa had a security clearance as a Judge Advocate many years ago. It was primarily used when in Vietnam for work on various investigations/war crime issues. The classified documents that I accessed were secret and below; mostly below. However, the handling of any classified material was treated very seriously. The documents were stored in a safe. A security officer could get a document that I needed for my work. I had to sign a log/receipt each time the document was in my possession. I kept it in my ofice until I returned it to the security officer for safekeeping. I did not leave the document on my desk if I went to lunch etc. It had to be returned to the safe. Any document was traced to and from me whenever it left or was returned to the safe. Security rules were clearly understood.

A good analogy is one I used when explaining the terms of a mortgage to clients at a real estate closing. Notes and mortgages have lots of clauses. Sign these papers if you want the lender’s money. It’s all weighted in the lender’s favor. If you don’t pay back they can come down on you like a ton of bricks. That is how I viewed the consequences if I mishandled classified material. It is simple,and direct. Yet, it is astounding that folks get sideways when dealing with classified documents. Can’t we expect professionals to be careful?

In the last two months the nation finds itself faced with both supposed lead candidate for President in 2024 under a possible crimminal investigation for classified material related issues. Duh! Papa once expressed a hope that the 2024 candidates not be age eligible for medicare. Now, I add hope for a sliver of common sense responsibility. Be judicious. Follow the rules.

Both potential crimminals are working hard to argue that what the other guy did is worse than what they did. The past President has a for me to know and you to find out what documents I might have defense supplemented by I can do whatever I want with my documents. Our current President’s defense may be that the near six years retention of material ( who knows where and seen by whom) doesn’t matter if, behind closed doors, his team in the last two months has been sorting through stuff and turning over what they deem is important to the proper authorities. Or, I’ve already seen a few media hints that in a hurry clericals may have inadvertently scattered classified material here and there. It’s hard to get decent worker bee help nowadays. One does wonder where the keepers of the classified documents have been for 5-6 years. (Is a document missing if the guys with the keys don’t know it’s missing?) I do know that I’d have had all hell to pay if I didn’t return classified material to the safe; that very day.

It’s all enough to make Papa wonder if we have a shortage of a ton of bricks for all.

JANUARY 6

When I was young this date stuck in my mind as “The Epiphany”. Recently the date marks a recent upheaval in a national election certification. However, it also is the date on which a famous speech was made at the critical time that much of the world was at war. The US was on the brink of that conflict. It was a speech intended to quell anxieties about America’s possible movement away from its stance of isloation. The United States was starting to lean towards resisting the perils of aggression. In 1941 the then US President delivered what is now known as the “Four Freedoms” speech. I urge you to read that speech and consider it in the perspective of the time.

Freedom of speech, freedom of worship, freedom from want and freedom from fear are as essential and needed now as was the case 82 years ago. The emphasis of course is on freedom. Bad actors still exist in today’s world. Dictatorships flourish when freedom is reduced/eliminated. Even well-intentioned leaders can cross the line of restricting freedom in the name of good. In our representative republic there is a fine line between our cherished individual freedoms and some necessary restraint on actions/activities that harm the common good. Where that line lies is always an appropriate discussion to have in society.

It’s easy to identify the tin horn crackpots that want and wage war. Another land war in Europe? Have they learned nothing? Elsewhere, millions and millions are enslaved by communism. Or, by dictators of other political philosophies. Those who wish to control freedoms in the name of their perceived rightousness of cause come in all manner of political stripes. Such dangers to freedom are usually easy to spot. However, there are also forces needing to transgress on freedom to achieve a goal that does not equal war or enslavement. A prime tool to manipulate and cajole is simple fear.

For example: the recent hub bub in congress over conflicting convictions in selecting a speaker scares some folks. Why? What’s to be feared about politicians arguing? A bunch of hot air by politicians instills fear? Some people recently seem to have a fear of anything not homonginized. What comfort is taken from a government that is united to such an extent that there are no ripples in civic life, where everyone can parrot their colleagues’ thoughts and all are adept at the latest in step matching. Conflict seems better suited to America. But, there is a fear that conflict will make the Speaker’s job hard. Sometimes Papa feels it is best to leave the popular annointment process to medival church lore.

It is up to you to weigh and balance the fears that will come towards you. I try to resist fears that restrain freedom without a good basis. We are flooded with the tactic of fear. We all may die is an attention grabber. Death is a legitimate concern but is it the stuff that should control every aspect of life? When everything is declared to be dying is it no wonder that despair and cynisim overwhelem? You and I are supposedly on the brink because of industrial age horrors. Oceans are dying as are fish and birds. Exticntion hovers over many species. Even the planet doesn’t stand much of a chance. One or the other political party will destroy the nation. But, luckily we all know who is at fault for our impending demise. We are told everyday. You can tune in and read all the “predictors” that are passionate in their beliefs and who know what you are or are not doing to save us all. Just get with the program.

There is nothing to fear but fear itself. FDR spoke those words prior to 1941 during his first inauguration. That thought goes back at least to the 16th century. Beware: there is always someone out there trying to stir the pot to create anxiety. Use your noggin when it is your turn to evaluate legitimate fear from fear mongering. The world is not as bad a place as some claim. Get a good night’s sleep; eat healthy foods; pay attention in school; don’t hurt people; develop and follow a moral code and always be kind to grandfathers.

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